Kaveh Kalantar's Blog

After is a self-defeating word. It robs you of the present, and resigns you to wait without taking any action. You convince yourself that life will be better after something: After you get a new job, after you get a better job, after you get more money, after you get out of debt, after the economy rebounds, after your stocks go back up, after you get that big order. You convince yourself that life will be better after an event: After you get married, after you have a baby, after you get a new house, after you take a vacation, after you come back from vacation, after summer is over, or some other action-procrastinating “after.” Are you frustrated that the kids aren't old enough, and believe you'll be more content after they’re in high school or out of high school? Are you frustrated that you have teenagers to deal with? You will certainly be happy after they’re out of that stage. Certainly you’ll be happier after they’re in college, or is it out of college? You tell yourself

And now we bring you to that portion of this philosophy which calls for a careful personal inventory on your part in order to determine how much of your time you are using wisely and beneficially, and how much of it you are wasting. This inventory requires that you answer (to yourself) these questions: a. Do you have a definite major purpose, and if so, how much of your time are you devoting to attaining that purpose? b. If you have such a purpose, what plan or plans have you for its attainment? Are you working your plans persistently, through organized effort, or working them only intermittently, when the notion strikes you? c. Is your definite major purpose obsessional, or is it merely a wish or a weak hope? d. What have you planned to give in return for the realization of the object of your definite major purpose? e. What steps have you taken to associate yourself with others, under the master mind principle, for the attainment of your purpose? f. Have your formed the h